Today's thought...Reality TV

Okay now this is going to kind of be a long blog so grab a cold beer and some chips. :) I am not one for watching reality tv. My friends call me all upset because I don't watch Survivor or Big Brother. I just don't. The problem I have with reality tv is that it's all fake. Most of the time you turn it on and you know just by watching the people that if they weren't on camera, they'd act completely different. You watch it and know that you will never see their true colors unless you read about it in US Weakly or see it on E Hollywood True Story.

This, is not that show. I've seen just about every episode (Thank you DVR), and I've seen how the people interact with each other and there are a few people. What is this show you ask, that I have deemed watchable for reality tv? Married to Jonas. That's right. I'm a huge Disney kid, grew up watching the Jonas Brother's and was sad when it went off the air. But alas, here it is again. Truth be told, that's the only reason I watched it the first time. Then, watching it, I started liking the whole concept of it, and I think it was more the interaction between Kevin and his wife Dani, and her family, than anything else.

You can tell by the way he looks at her when they talk, the way they treat each other when they get into an argument, even the way she is insecure in her surroundings sometimes when it comes to all of the publicity and what not. They are so cute together and I'm so glad they are allowing their lives to be put on air for essentially, our entertainment.

What I like the most, is the fact that no one on the show tries to be perfect, which definitely comes across rather well. Dani is this simple girl who as they say hit the jackpot. Can I just say I really hate every time I hear that? Why does it have to be a small town girl that got lucky and was noticed by Kevin Jonas? Maybe it's just the girl in me, but why can't it be the big name singer that got lucky enough to be noticed by Danielle Deleasa? Or, better yet, why can't it just be what it probably was? Two people, spotted each other across the beach, and the world stopped, and for a few moments in time, they were the only two people on the Earth? I mean, I don't know if it was across the beach, but you get the point. And when you see the two of them together, especially out in public, there is no one else in the world but the two of them. No one for her, and no one for him.

It's so funny watching it sometimes because as a woman, I can totally relate to how Dani feels about things. Like trying to impress the mother in law, and getting nervous when they come over for dinner. Let me tell ya, I've been married for ten years now and I still try to impress my mother in law sometimes. And I love that Kevin seems to get along really well with Dani's family, which is definitely a plus for any relationship. Coming from a marriage prior to the one now, where my husband and my family didn't get along at all, to this marriage to my wonderful husband who I would swear sometimes my family loves more than me. Truth be told, I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world.

They're so young, but past their awkward kids not ready for a commitment stage, ya know? And they're dealing with real trials and they are prevailing wonderfully. I'm admittedly totally hooked on the show and can't wait to see it each Sunday. I will talk to my television at times and I wish I could just ... okay, sometimes I'd love to be able to just grab Dani gently and tell her "Honey, that man loves you more than life itself. You can see it every time he looks at you, you are perfect the way you are and in every way. Don't put so much pressure on yourself because nothing you do is ever going to change the way he looks at you. Take your time and enjoy each other. Don't stress yourself out about looking bad or anything. You are beautiful girl! Embrace it! I love how you haven't let anything change who you are and even more, that it doesn't look like it's going to any time soon."

To Kevin, I think I'd say "Hang on tight boy. You got a good one in this girl and she loves you more than life itself too. Keep doin your thing!" And to both of them..."You guys have a lot of trials to come, it comes with marriage! Never forget how much you love each other and when you look back on those trials you will see that the arguments are over small things, but when it really counts, you'll come together and wont even think twice about it. When kids come into the picture, which let me tell ya, my husband and I waited 8 years before we had our little girl and I'm glad we did, they will test your patience and will show you just how strong you are, but remember, as long as you're a unit, you will be stronger than you know."

I guess that's about all for now, I'm telling you, if you want to watch a good reality show, coming from someone who doesn't watch reality shows, watch this one. I am not the type to put anyone on a pedestal and least of all would I want to put that much pressure on someone, but these two are what a marriage should be. They're not perfect, no marriage is, but these two remind me of my husband and I when we were first married. It makes me smile remembering those times with him. I can't wait to see what happens and wish Kevin and Dani a long and happy marriage with many years to come. If ya'll ever break down in front of my house, I promise to feed ya good and if ya ever need an ear, I've got a great one. Can't wait each Sunday to see the show and good luck on all of your endeavours to come! Stand together and you can beat the world. My husband and I are proof of that.

Today's thought....Beer with Jesus

So my husband and I are on the way home today and this song comes on the radio called Beer with Jesus. And it's a man talking about if he could have some time just to talk to Jesus, what would he ask. So after the song, the DJ asked, if you were to have a beer with Jesus, who would catch the tab? And I know he didn't mean it in a bad way, and I didn't take it in a bad way, but without thinking, my answer, out loud to my husband, was "Well me, of course!"

So then, I keep thinking. And I mean...really? Here's how it'd be. "Nah Jesus. It's good man! After all you did for me? No, I got this one. It's all good!" Then it got me to thinking, what would I ask if I had a beer with Jesus? Okay first off, it'd most definitely be a glass of wine, I'm not a beer drinker. But what if I could have a glass of wine with Jesus? How would that conversation go? Would it be a simple matter of why and how? Or would it be more involved? What if I was only allowed one question, what would that question be?

Then I knew. "Why me?" Why was I so special that he died for me? And I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm not narcissistic enough to think he only did this for me, and I realize there are and have been other people before me, and others after me, but God knew there would be me. He knew there would be this soul that believed in his son. And he asked that son to make that sacrifice for me and others like me, and he did it! The next thing I'd say, (not a question), is I'm sorry.

And you question this. Why would I apologize? Because sometimes it hurts me to think about what he went through, and the pain that he suffered, all in the name of salvation. He went through hours and hours of hell, and on his death bed as a human, he asks for forgiveness for all of those around him, as well as the non believers. Could you imagine doing that? What about what God went through? He had to allow that to happen to his son, so that we could stand here today and revel in his love. I can't imagine. And I know that when we finished that glass of wine, I would hug him and just cry for a bit before saying good-bye, that I love him, and beg for another chance to do it. I know things come in their own time, and I know that one day, in heaven, me and Jesus and God are gonna be laughing it up going "Remember that one time when..."

But until that time, it never hurts to wonder what if.